Mindin’ your Manners on Social Media

By nature, I’m pretty chill and laid back but now and then I get ticked off by bad behavior. Two  weeks ago, the internet was the prime source for people to express their opinions on same-sex marriage, Christianity, attempting to  clown Oprah Winfrey, and naked women just being, naked. Social media allows us to connect in ways we never imagined but it was never to take the place of  face to face  communication.  Here’s a couple of tips on managing social media just to remind us of what it’s for.

We are human beings. We thrive on relationships. Social media makes it really easy to neglect your social skills. But please don’t let it take the place of talking to another person face to face. In other words, don’t ask a person on a date on twitter or Facebook. If you’re really close friends, pick up the phone and call them on their birthday. And when someone passes away, the temptation is easy to send a text  especially if you don’t know what to say, but it’s so much more meaningful to show  you  care when you do it the old-fashioned way.  And my LAWD, don’t break off a relationship or bad mouth your spouse when it ends. It shows respect for your privacy and the other person. (Even if you can’t stand them, no need to let the world in on your drama.) IMO

Mind your manners, please. I’m all for a good debate, but when we gotta “go IN” and take it to the level of buffoonery, we miss the mark of civility. No need to curse anyone out, or randomly vent off topic because you feel some kind of way, because you can always pick up the phone or have a conversation  if you really want to deal with the issue. Now, for the folk that like to get on websites and bully from the keyboard, if you wouldn’t say it to their face, you might want to let it go. Being racist, sexist, or simply disrespectful behind the keyboard is a just being a coward. And while  we all have the right to voice our opinion,  can we stay on topic and address the issue instead of attacking the person? Our Congress has a problem with this too so it’s obvious we all have work to do.

Get a life. Sometimes, the people consumed with social media have forgotten that there are real people out in the world. So, no wonder they have a hard time communicating when they aren’t connected to FB, LinkedIn, twitter, tumbler….etc. Just speculating, but they may have free time to argue with people they will never meet because they aren’t workin’ on stuff in their  own lives. I know firsthand because when I wasn’t working, I could easily be consumed (nosey) with what everyone else was doing. After I applied for jobs online, I would scroll feeds….and read timelines…. and blogs. Nothing to do with ME but in everybody’s biz but my own.  My point is take a break sometimes and get away from the computer. Trust me, it will still be there when you get back. You might even decide you don’t need it anymore.

Sidenote: I wrote this after noticing a couple of guys who wanted to date   became angry and decided to vent and take jabs at me on Facebook. NEVER once was anything addressed with me off-line and I’m fairly good at picking up the phone. As it turns out, you can’t please everyone and most certainly if you act a donkey with me over something minor, I made the right decision. Mind your manners. :)


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